Proverbs 11: 16 Graciousness vs. Ruthlessness

As I read today’s verse. I was dismayed at what MY understanding came up with. The second part of the verse sounded like it totally went against the things that God teaches, so I decided to look up each of the important words so that I would be able to get a complete understanding of the meanings behind the words that upset me. First, let’s read the verse:

Proverbs 11: 16 (NKJV)

16 A gracious woman retains honor,
But ruthless men retain riches.

The word, “gracious” has the root word of “grace” which is defined as: 1. A disposition to be generous or helpful; goodwill; To show mercy or clemency. 2. A favor rendered by one who need not do so 3. (Christian theology) a state of sanctification by God; the state of one who is under God’s divine influence.

The word “gracious,” itself, means: 1. To be characterized by: kindness, warm courtesy, tact, propriety, charm or beauty; gracefulness, elegance and good taste 2. To be of a merciful or compassionate nature. 3. (Archaic meaning) Enjoying favor or grace; acceptable or pleasing. These characteristics fit the example, at the end of Proverbs, of the “perfect” woman in God’s sight where it also says that this woman will be honored.

The word “retains” means: 1. To maintain possession of 2. To keep or hold 3. To keep in mind; remember.

The word, “honor” is defined as: 1. High respect, as that shown for special merit; esteem: 2. Good name; reputation. 3. Glory or recognition; distinction.

Our last main word in this verse is “ruthless” which means: Having no compassion or pity; merciless: without mercy or pity; "a monster of remorseless cruelty"

The first part of our verse says that a woman (or person) that shows compassion, mercy, gentleness, courtesy, and tact, even when they don’t HAVE TO, will enjoy favor and be acceptable or pleasing to God. Someone with these traits will keep in mind, or hold onto, their good name and reputation. People will recognize them them by giving them a LOT of respect. An excellant example of a person like this was Mother Theresa.

Think of those people who have shown these qualities that you know, and how you feel about that person. This would be something I would want to strive for in MY life because I want people to see God’s work in my life.

The second part of this verse is what caused me to be confused because, through a cursory reading, it seemed to say that you need to be “ruthless,” or "a monster of remorseless cruelty," that has NO compassion, pity or mercy toward people if you want to be rich. If you look further, though, at the verse, it says these types of people will RETAIN their riches. They will NOT share them or use them to help others, no matter how badly it is needed.

I came to see that God was “reporting” on what happens in this world. By remembering so many of the rest of the verses that we have been studying in Proverbs, I know that those “riches” are doing NOTHING for the soul of that person. He would have NO peace, love or joy in his heart, for you only get those by giving them away to others. An example of this was Hitler who ended up going mad and killing himself.

I also remembered that several of the verses that we have studied essentially were “boiled down” by Christ into these words in Mark 8:36 -- For what will it profit a man if he gains the whole world, and loses his own soul?”

Proverbs 11: 4 Riches vs Righteousness

The verse we are studying today, warns us not to put our trust in riches, but in being right with God. We will use verses from the Bible with God’s definitions of the major ideas from today’s verse.

Proverbs 11: 4 (NKJV)

4 Riches do not profit in the day of wrath,
But righteousness delivers from death.


God is a God of Love, and as such, He must judge evil. There is coming, a “Day of Wrath,” when God WILL pour out His judgment on those that refuse to accept Him as their Lord and Jesus as their savior! He gave up His son to save us and there is nothing further He can do. We don’t have to face this… It is our choice. Here is what God has to say about the “Day of Wrath” in Isaiah 13:9-13 (NKJV)


9 Behold, the day of the LORD comes,
Cruel, with both wrath and fierce anger,
To lay the land desolate;
And He will destroy its sinners from it.

10 For the stars of heaven and their constellations

Will not give their light;

The sun will be darkened in its going forth,

And the moon will not cause its light to shine.

11 “ I will punish the world for its evil,

And the wicked for their iniquity;

I will halt the arrogance of the proud,

And will lay low the haughtiness of the terrible.

12 I will make a mortal more rare than fine gold,

A man more than the golden wedge of Ophir.

13 Therefore I will shake the heavens,

And the earth will move out of her place,
In the wrath of the LORD of hosts

And in the day of His fierce anger.

Psalms 49: 16-20 (NIV) warns us not to be overawed with “riches,” because riches, in themselves, will not bring life.

16 Do not be overawed when a man grows rich,

when the splendor of his house increases;
17 for he will take nothing with him when he dies,

his splendor will not descend with him.
18 Though while he lived he counted himself blessed—

and men praise you when you prosper-

19 he will join the generation of his fathers,
who will never see the light of life .
20 A man who has riches without understanding

is like the beasts that perish.

NOTE: It is the man that has "riches WITHOUT UNDERSTANDING" that will perish. It isn't the riches that bring about condemnation, it is putting them before God that does.

Psalms 15: 1 – 5 gives us a definition from the Bible, of the person that God feels is “righteous,” and who will end up in Heaven…

1 LORD, who may dwell in your sanctuary?
Who may live on your holy hill?
2 He whose walk is blameless

and who does what is righteous,

who speaks the truth from his heart
3 and has no slander on his tongue,

who does his neighbor no wrong

and casts no slur on his fellowman,
4 who despises a vile man

but honors those who fear the LORD,

who keeps his oath

even when it hurts,
5 who lends his money without usury

and does not accept a bribe against the innocent.

He who does these things

will never be shaken.

Now, let's read, again our verse from today: Proverbs 11: 4 Riches do not profit in the day of wrath, But righteousness delivers from death. After reading God’s definitions, I found this verse to be much more meaningful and significant in it’s meaning for me… I hope that you did too!

Proverbs 10:21 & 22 Righteousness & Blessings

Today, we are studying verses 21 and 22 of Chapter 10. These two verses speak of “the righteous” in contrast to “fools,” and about the riches that God gives that will NOT end up bringing sorrow, like so many ‘earthly riches” do.

Proverbs 10:21 & 22 (NKJV)

21 The lips of the righteous feed many,
But fools die for lack of wisdom.
22 The blessing of the LORD makes one rich,
And He adds no sorrow with it.




We saw verses very close to verse 21 when we read Proverbs 10:13 & 14. Those that are righteous, speak words of value and words that are “food for the soul.” That is one reason why Jesus was called the Bread of Life. When people are fed, they live and grow, while those that are foolish and don’t follow righteousness and God’s ways of wisdom, end up dying from "soul starvation"… both in this life and after it.


In other verses, we have also seen that by following God’s ways, He will bless us, and we will be rich. This COULD mean in worldly wealth, IF God knows that the person can handle worldly wealth, and has been faithful with the things he as already been entrusted with…

Luke 16:10-12 (New Living Translation)

10 “If you are faithful in little things, you will be faithful in large ones, but if you are dishonest in little things, you won’t be honest with greater responsibilities. 11 And if you are untrustworthy about worldly wealth, who will trust you with the true riches of heaven? 12 And if you are not faithful with other people’s things, why should you be trusted with things of your own?


These riches can also be inner, soul and spiritual riches that we CAN keep with us forever. These types of riches are TRUE riches, “And He (God) adds no sorrow with it. Way to often, “wordly riches” WILL bring sorrow, as those that aren’t equipped, spiritually, will let those riches overwhelm them and not use them wisely.

Proverbs 10: 15 Wealth vs Poverty

Today’s verse discusses the attitudes of the rich and the poor.

Proverbs 10:15 (NKJV)

15 The rich man’s wealth is his strong city;

The destruction of the poor is their poverty.

The first part of the verse talks about a “strong city.” A “strong city” in Bible times was a place of refuge, protection and safety. This verse explains that a rich man usually puts his trust in his money to keep him safe and to take care of him. The problem with this is that Jesus taught us that you “can’t serve both God and mammon (money)… “ Matt 6:24 (NKJV) “ No one can serve two masters; for either he will hate the one and love the other, or else he will be loyal to the one and despise the other. You cannot serve God and mammon.”

It tells us in Ecclesiastes 5:10 (NIV) that, “Whoever loves money, never has money enough; whoever loves wealth is NEVER satisfied with his income.”

Matt 13:22 (NIV) tells us, “ The one who received the seed that fell among the thorns is the man who hears the word, but the worries of this life and the deceitfulness of wealth choke it, making it unfruitful,” and 1 Tim. 6:17 (NIV) says, “ Command those who are rich in this present world not to be arrogant, nor to put their hope in wealth, which is so uncertain, but to put their hope in God, who richly provides us with everything for our enjoyment.”

The second part of our verse warns that poverty can cause the destruction of the poor. We see this so often in the world today. Those that live in places of poverty often end up in lives of crime or consumed by drugs, because they get into the company of those that have “chosen” paths that led them into that situation.

One thing that comes to my mind, though, is that sometimes, we can be in poverty stricken places and still see people that are happy. They have an “inner wealth” that sustains them and by trusting in God as their provider, they will be able to climb out of the pit they have found themselves in. So, it is possible to be destroyed by poverty if you take it to heart and become bitter and envious instead of trusting in God to lead you to paths that will eventually bring you out of it. It all depends on what your eyes are on… is it God, or is it money?!

Proverbs 10: 2

Today’s verse contrasts wickedness with righteousness:


Proverbs 10: 2 (NKJV)

2 Treasures of wickedness profit nothing,

But righteousness delivers from death.

Many people in today’s world look at monetary wealth, a high class car, prestige, good looks, a high paying job, a “perfect” family and/or marriage, etc. as treasures to be sought after. None of these things are, in themselves evil, but when they are put first in a person’s life and become “idols” to that person, then they become sin.

ANYTHING that is put above what God would want, and/or that keep our eyes focused on something OTHER than Him, is an idol, and worshipping “idols” is considered by God to be “wickedness.” The Online Dictionary defines an “idol” as: 1. an object of excessive devotion or admiration; 2. an image of a “god” used as an object of worship.

These kinds of “treasures” are only temporal and of this world. We will only live in this world for a short time in relation to the amount of time we will spend in heaven or in hell. WE have the choice, while on this earth, to choose one of those two places to spend eternity. We can’t take any of these earthly things with us, but we WILL take the RESULTS of the path we choose, to the place we have chosen to live after this life. EITHER we walk with a loving God (following and seeking His ways), or we follow some “idol” that will mold, rot, or rust.

The Bible says that a person is “righteous” when he/she chooses to put God first and follow Him and His ways in his/her life. “Righteous” is defined in the Online Dictionary as: 1. Morally upright; without guilt or sin.

God promises a life in heaven, with Him, to those that choose to follow a life of moral “uprightness” and that turn away from sin. We, as humans, could never do this on our own… we will ALWAYS fall short. THAT is why Jesus paid for our sinful lives by giving HIS sin-LESS life. When we REPENT of our sins (tell God we are sorry we didn’t do what He wanted us to), ask Him into our lives and hearts, and then strive (with the Holy Spirit’s help that He gives us at that point) to follow Him, then we are SEEN as being “righteous” by God.

He knows, then, that we want to follow HIM and not our own ways. We DIE to ourselves and put HIM first. When this happens, we are “born again” with a new spirit within us, and that, eventually “delivers from death,” as the end of this verse says. I think that this is the “second death” spoken of in Revelation 2:11 (“He who has an ear, let him hear what the Spirit says to the churches. He who overcomes shall not be hurt by the second death.”) Our body MAY die (depending on if Christ comes first) but our new Spirit that is following God, will never die.